My church has decided to go to a small group format for the summer for the Sunday School/Bible study time on Sunday morning rather than age-graded Sunday School. The small groups would be made up of two or three families along with some single adults. Families, ages four or five to adult, would go together to one small group and spend about an hour in Bible study and prayer. The stated goal of this experiment in small group fellowship and study, as stated by one of the initiators of the idea, is:
. . . to build depth of relationship. It is very hard to come alongside each other in our walks, encouraging each other to grow and mature, until we know one another better and build trust. That kind of trust is what we hope to build over time through these groups. ‘Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.’ (1 Peter 4:8). As we have the opportunity to love each other more deeply, we will be better prepared to bear with one another’s weaknesses and struggles, praying for and encouraging one another. I know I have plenty of weaknesses and blind spots in my life—I need brothers and sisters in Christ who will love me in spite, actually in the midst, of them and pray for the Holy Spirit to do His sanctifying work in opening my eyes to them. I think we all have this need—as a church, we need to ensure we are meeting this need for everyone in the body.”
Even though I agree with these goals in principle, the whole concept makes me feel uncomfortable and uneasy and reluctant to attend anything other than the worship service on Sunday mornings. I’ve been trying to figure out why I’m so resistant, and I think I’ve come up with a couple of reasons, not necessarily good reasons, but reasons:
1. I’m an introvert. I don’t gain energy from relating to groups of people, even small groups of people, but instead I lose energy as I struggle to relate and to be both vulnerable to and accepting of others. As an introvert, I usually get and give encouragement either one-on-one or in a large group where I am not singled out and not trying to relate to an entire group of people. The latter is emotionally exhausting and difficult for me. Therefore, participating in a small group on Sunday mornings would not be a ministry TO me, but it would require me to give and to expend emotional energy, which might be a good thing even though it’s hard.
2. I’m concerned about the make-up of the groups and how that is going to be handled. I don’t know how families and others are going to be assigned to groups, but (being honest here) I do know that there are people in our church with whom I could easily build close, supportive relationships and others that I tolerate and love as best I can. I’m sure there are people in the church who feel both ways about me, too. Maybe I would learn to love and be more Christ-like if I were thrown together with some of those people that I only “love from a distance” right now, but maybe we would all be sorry that we tried such an experiment.
3. The wide age range that is an inherent part of this plan is problematic. Either we’re going to “dumb down” the study and the prayer time to cater to the youngest children in our group, or we’re going to communicate and relate on an adult level and send the children to the corner with a picture page and a package of crayons. I know family, age-integrated Bible study has been done in other groups, and I used to be a advocate of mixed age groups until I saw some attempts firsthand. Now I think you can mix adults and teens successfully, but children are just not mature enough to handle adult topics that need to be discussed and taught in adult Bible studies and prayer groups.
4. Leadership is going to be a problem, as it always is. If the Lord wants us to have these small groups, He will provide the leadership. However, it’s going to take more prayer and thoughtful consideration and planning than just asking for volunteers or putting out a sign-up sheet.
With all those caveats and questions, I’m prayerfully willing to try this plan and see how it goes. I would like to be positive and supportive of the leaders in our church who have conceived this experiment, and I plan to make myself attend in spite of my misgivings. So can anyone tell me, either from experience or from wisdom gained, how well such a plan would work and what things should we be concerned about as we begin this new approach to Bible study?