R is worried that I will get too enamored of this courtship idea and try to pick out a husband for her. Actually, I don’t want to pick a spouse for any of my children. I just think of courtship as a protection device. If THE guy comes along, wouldn’t it be nice if he were willing to go to your parents and ask their permission to court you? Wouldn’t that show more about some guy’s worthines and character than whether or not he can play cricket? I just want whoever marries each of my daughters to be entirely wonderful and worthy of the great honor of her hand. And I want him to be prepared for marriage–financially, emotionally, and spiritually. So I think he had BETTER come talk to us if he wants to get near my daughter!!